Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Sex

A couple of weeks ago I asked my husband why we don't have sex anymore. I knew the answer but was devastated to hear it coming from his lips.

I wonder what I give him that makes him want to stay with me despite the fact that we neither sleep together nor have sex.

Reading these few sentences makes me feel doom about our long and very happy marriage. My therapist says there's more to intimacy than intercourse and it's true that we do hug and peck and snuggle... I wonder if my inability to believe that it's not that important points to the sick way I've always thought and felt about sex... I have often acted as though I have no value except for my sex.

2 thoughts:

Syd February 16, 2010 at 12:59 PM  

There is more to intimacy than intercourse--very true. Just the simple act of snuggling and holding hands is great. Maybe it's time to talk to a sex therapist and reconnect with intimacy in a different way that will lead to more sexual feelings. Just a thought.

Don Carlo December 29, 2010 at 10:47 PM  

You have GREAT value, or else I would not have stopped here to read, comment, and PRAY with you...you DO pray, right?

PEACE, girl, take it easy, smile with me NOW! That's an order!!!